Welcome Back...(to the Same Behaviors?)

I have made the point many times that the "Sharpness" of Learning from Failure is much greater than Learning from Success. We have indicated that watching the Patterns/Habits/Mistakes of someone on a downward Trajectory can be as Beneficial as it is Painful and Awkward. You need to Recognize the Bad with the Good, both sides of the Success Spectrum, and know how to Fix something before it Breaks.  None of this is possible without getting your hands dirty. Finding a Breaking Point in yourself, watching a Relative or Friend struggle with their Fitness, or simply letting "Average" creep into your Daily Ritual are all situations that are Opportunities to Learn. Short-Term, Failure is Difficult. The Mental aspect is much tougher to deal with and you can question everything. Long-Term, Failure is Information. It provides a Set Point to Develop, Nurture, and Execute your Plan with the Knowledge of Experience and Evaluation. For You (and your Kids) a little Struggle goes a long way...

What happens when someone Struggles @IPF? There are very few Secrets in our Gym, and Negative Behavior is hard to miss. Attendance, Effort, Grit/Toughness, and Attitude are all Displayed in every moment. You generally know who is "Trending" in what Direction. A great example: Big Jimmy. Big Jimmy is a terrific kid who has dealt with some Internal Conflict. It has been displayed for all to see. Jimmy has had multiple Successful "Chapters" of %BodyFat + Weight Loss, Improved Fitness, and Increased Strength. The Problem lies with his Success. Each bout of Improvement was met with Distraction, and then Disappearance. Lose 30lbs, Disappear for 30 Days. Ride his Best 5mile Bike, Vanish for 5 Days. Have a Perfect month of Attendance, then no-show for a month. We had a Sequence Code for what Jimmy would cite as his "Opponent" when Texting Out: Car/Work/Family/Repeat. None of this makes Jimmy a Bad Person. In fact, he was as beloved as anyone in our Community. People worked hard to help him every day in the gym, he received repeated reinforcement from his peers, and was motivated by his current condition and Health Markers to Improve. He still failed. Repeatedly. He is still Loved, asked about, and dangeroulsy Unfit. I think it is as necessary to Recognize this as it is Important. You have to see that sometimes the People you care about may benefit from a different approach, may need your help a little bit more, and your emotion(s) can Hinder/Blind/Negate your Effect along the way. Jimmy will get another shot as soon as he is ready, but each Failure brings about more Structure to his new Plan. That Structure may be what he Needs, and Resents, the most...

How would you Treat a returning member of the IPF community that had struggled in the Past? Would your Like/Dislike affect how (much) you tried to Help? Human Nature is different, but exists, for all of us. What is more Important-that Someone "Likes" or "Respects" the Journey? What is more Important-their overall Health or how much they "Like" you? Regardless, you need to Learn from each and every person you Interact with every day. Their Behavior, Positive or Negative, should help you Walk your Path that much Better...and you never know when someone form the Past Returns and Needs your Help :)

Lets Walk Together to meet @Success.